Summary

The blog post is about infertility counselling and its role in helping couples struggling to conceive. It discusses the challenges and emotions associated with infertility, especially during the spring season, and how counselling can provide support and guidance during this difficult time. The blog post also highlights the importance of seeking professional help to cope with the psychological toll of infertility and provides information on how to schedule a consultation with Claire Jennings Therapy.

Infertility counselling can be a crucial resource for couples struggling to conceive, especially during the spring season which often brings thoughts of new beginnings. For those experiencing infertility, starting a family can be a challenging journey, filled with emotional and psychological hurdles that can be difficult to overcome without the right support.

Spring often causes us to think of new beginnings. Flowers start to pop up from the ground, green buds appear on the trees and it is a time when crops are planted in the fields. It is because of this that I reflect on the experience of fertility at this time of year.

Being able to start a family is, for most people, a time full of joy and excitement. However, for couples who have issues conceiving, trying to become pregnant can lead to feelings of despair, guilt, anger, envy and grief.

Infertility: The first point of call

The first point of call if you have been trying for a family for 12 months or more without success is the GP. A lot of the causes of difficulties with conception are physical. Having a correct medical diagnosis of issues such as low sperm count, Polycystic Ovary Syndrome, erectile dysfunction, fibroids or endometriosis may lead to targeted treatment.

Treatments could include life-style changes such as improved diet, stopping smoking or cutting down on alcohol. It might also include specific medication, for example, to help with ovulation. In some cases, such as endometriosis, surgery might be necessary.

Mental Causes of Infertility

There are also mental causes of infertility such as stress. Being anxious about money, working long hours or other worries can lead to difficulties with conception. Not being able to conceive can then lead to even more stress that, in turn, leads to infertility.

Assisted Fertility

Where medical treatments are not successful, there is also the option of assisted fertility such as intrauterine insemination or in-vitro fertilisation. Sometimes a donor egg or sperm from a person outside of the partnership may be used if the partners and medical consultants believe this would increase the likelihood of success.

Infertility & Difficult Emotions

If you are struggling to conceive you may experience a range of difficult emotions. You might feel anxious, depressed, frustrated, as though time is ticking too quickly or regret about choices you might have made in the past, for example, the use of recreational drugs or a decision not to have started a family earlier. Sometimes the experience of infertility can lead to tension within the relationship and you may find yourselves snapping at each other or feeling that the other partner doesn’t understand how you feel. You may also perhaps feel resentful towards friends and family members who already have children which again, can lead to tension within those relationships.

The Medical Procedures

The medical procedures, although there to help, can be emotionally difficult too. You may cycle through a repeating pattern of raised hope, followed by a crashing disappointment every time the pregnancy test returns a negative result. You might also find yourself having to cope with well-meaning but tactless enquiries from friends and family as to when you are going to start your family. These questions can feel intrusive and upsetting and may make you think that you need to explain or justify what’s happening, forcing a private pain into a more public viewpoint.

Infertility Counselling

Infertility counselling can help. By being able to talk through your thoughts and feelings, you can process what’s happening in a safe space away from judgement or heightened emotion from those around you. Infertility counselling can also help with stress, whether it’s something that is causing infertility or a result of not being able to conceive.

Please get in touch if you would like to make an appointment to discuss anything related to infertility. You can contact me either via e-mail: claire.jennings01@btinternet.com or by phone on: 07870 582145.